What if I felt pressured to sign the divorce agreement?
Peer pressure is not something you leave behind when you are in elementary school or high school and other kids want you to do things you don’t want to do. It’s something that often follows you in life, and it’s not always easy to manage. There are times when you will feel the overwhelming need to deal with people when they pressure you to do things you don’t want to do. Pushy salesmen trying to get you to buy things you don’t want. The people who are on top of you the moment you walk down a busy street in New York City, and even those trying to sell you a car.
Pushy people are everywhere, but you certainly don’t assume you’ll walk into an attorney’s office and feel pressured to sign divorce papers when presented with them by your spouse’s attorney. You might not want to deal with that, but it happens in many divorce cases. You’re not ready to sign the papers, but you do it because you feel overwhelmed by your spouse’s requests and even by the requests of his or her attorney. It’s not a pretty process, but it happens all the time.
Now is the time to think about this. Did you sign papers you weren’t in agreement with? You can’t avoid signing them forever to stop a divorce from happening, but you can avoid signing them when you don’t agree with what you want. Perhaps you felt pressured to sign even though you don’t agree with the custody, the alimony, or the division of assets. It’s time for you to figure out what to do next.
What if I signed divorce papers because I was pressured?
Unfortunately, it’s not always easy to decide you were under duress when you signed the paperwork and see anything happen because of it. You can talk to your attorney about it and see what kind of paperwork can be filed during this particular time in the divorce process, but there is very little you can do to stop a divorce from going through because of this.
The best you can do is provide proof you were pressured. If you have proof, a judge might decide you can go forward with your request to re-handle the paperwork and change a few things. For example, if you have emails or voice messages your spouse sent to you threatening you if you don’t sign the papers immediately, you can use those to prove you were under duress.
Did he send you threatening messages or do something to hurt you? If so, you can ask that the paperwork is voided and re-written so you can agree to sign it in a way that works for you. The paperwork can be changed, but you must prove you felt the need to sign due to pressure rather than you simply changed your mind about a few things.
Call an Attorney
If you haven’t called an attorney already, now is the time to do it. You can find an experienced divorce attorney who is willing to walk you through this process to help you get what you need from the person who is pressuring you. You deserve to get what you want and ask for what you need in this divorce. You don’t deserve to feel pressured into doing anything you aren’t comfortable with doing.